Chinmay Vyas: No. I don't feel regret for girls attending night bars or night life. Consider the flip-flop side of our nation. India is emerging as a global superpower. And, India where almost half its urban male population feels that if a woman is hanging out with friends in a bar, she is inviting trouble;
Obviously, everything has changed and nothing has changed. The same Home Minister who closes down dance bars because "they spoil our boys" now wonders why these same boys are molesting passing women.
An Indian woman should be independent in all aspects by taking herself decisions, she must know to handle the societies and also to carry herself in this scenario making all the adjustments in her life without damaging her image. Why is it okay for boys to hang out with girls, smoke, drink and party because our society allows such freedom? Why boys grow up considering themselves superior to girls, think it's their right to take advantage of them? Just because they are getting a standard of raising. It's more natural to pass lewd remarks at a girl, even if she is standing with her mother. There seems to be something superbly uncivilised about the way women in our country get treated. Instead of this, focus should be on the behaviour of the boys, respect towards the girls, how to treat them with due respect and regards and elegance. Just raising a point on late night parties of girls cannot be the solution. The molestation of women being just a little glitch in this violent misogyny that needs to be explained in more concrete sexual terms.
What we need is to take an initiative to make India a better place for women. There is no harm for a woman to be in late night parties if she is independent and quite confident while taking care of her. She is an ideal woman of our country.
Adhinath
Jha: It has come from western culture that girls are
misusing their freedom. But many problems & issues are taking
birth by following this culture.
Girls must maintain their self respect & dignity when they attend late night parties. A late night party is not that safe as a day party; many incidents have taken place due to late night party.
Party should be organized by the organizer during day time only, and in the case of a late night party, the organizers should give assurance for the safety and security of girls.
In my opinion, in the modern world, the late night party is the demand of time, organizers want to arrange parties at times convenient for the invitees, so night party is in trend. Girls must understand which type of parties they should attend and avoid going in late night parties.
Sadaf
Khan: Well in my opinion it all depends on what type
of party it is. If it's a rave then obviously not, in such
a case not even lads should go, as it is no safe for them
than it is for girls. But, if you look at parties such as
a birthdays/ wedding/Christmas / Diwali/ Eid etc then I
feel that, if appropriate precautions are taken then inshAllah
there should not be any problem.
I feel it is essential that everyone but especially girls know at least some form of self defence, be it street fighting to just doing a normal street safety course which just includes things such as taking a mobile, telling someone where you will be and with whom.
In case if something happens they can raise the alarm and have a lead as to where you could have been. Also, awareness is needed in the sense that, if one is getting late then, may be walking is not the best option, get a taxi.
It is more pricey than just walking but at the end of the day what would you rather do. Safe money or be safe? There is danger everywhere, you are not even 100% safe in your own house, all you can do is take the appropriate precautions and pray to Allah to keep us safe.
Unfortunately the world is not a nice place. It would be wonderful if everyone could go out whenever and wherever they wanted and stayed safe. But, that is not the case and not only for girls but also lads. I have read and heard of as many incidents happening with lads than I have heard of girls. So, one must not think that this issue is gender bound because it surely is not.
Malyachal
Mishra: We are living at a time when the whole world
has become a small village. People want change in their
social status and their life standards. When we are living
in a modern society then why we have confined our thoughts,
why we are not changing our thinking.
Should girls join late night party or not -in my view, definitely they should join because they are also part of society. They also have their desires and freedom. Then why does this patriarchal and man dominating society always suppresses the thoughts, wishes and freedom of womenfolk. Who has given the power to these men to treat women like that. Why the former always make rules in favour of them and against the latter.
When we are not stopping boys from attending late night parties then why should girls be also stopped? -only because they are girls. No, it's not fair. When we talk about similarity then why we discriminate between girls and boys. It is the big question for our society and it cannot be solved without changing our thinking and mental status.
Yes, but girls should take some precautions which they understand. If this type of changes takes place in our society then definitely our society will develop.
Sushmita
Shrivastava: I think girls can join late night parties
only if there is no risk involved. Our society is very different
from the Western society, where girls can do whatever they
wish without any fear. We ape the West but at the same time
we follow double standards. Besides, we do not give equal
treatment to all girls. If the girl belongs to a powerful,
rich and influential family then she is safe and can enjoy
in late night parties. If she belongs to an ordinary family
then she is unsafe. We boast while highlighting the achievement
of a few women who have become celebrities in some fields.
But, such women are an extremely small percentage. Majority
of women in our country are subjected to exploitation, suffering
and discrimination and parties, enjoyment etc just don't
exist for them. Only in a society without oppression of
any kind can all girls be really free. Such a society can
be created if the skills, energy, creativity and vision
of the mass of ordinary women and men are brought together
in a struggle against exploitation and injustice. Women's
demands and campaigns to win real, not just formal, equality
with men in every sphere will be an indispensable part of
that struggle.
Ashi Sirbhaiya:
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Keeping
this saying in mind girls should avoid attending late night
parties. The day-by-day increasing crime has increased misdemeanour
with the girls, who to blame for this? Girls should learn
from a recent incident of misbehaviour with a girl in Mumbai;
the girl in question would have never thought of such an
incident taking place in her life. For enjoyment girls join
such parties but some anti-social elements of the society
join with the girls for their own fun. Girls can let it
happen and girls can prevent it. Our elders give wise advice
not to join such parties, the girls should listen to them
and follow their advice.
MR Nair: Girls
joining the late night parties are gradually increasing
in metro cities. The metropolitans call it as part of city
life. The rich parents (they themselves are part of such
city life) do permit their daughters with a warning to desist
from sexual activities. In this fast moving life of mega
cities, even working men and women have started living together
in the same flat without marrying and the society has started
slowly accepting it. Since our society has advanced to this
stage, those who are living in such places have no objection
to the girls joining late night parties. But, one thing
should be remembered. This sort of life is accepted in the
upper and upper middle families. In their society, girls
should be `modern' and `educated' enough to move around
in their circle. A tradition valued and shy to late night
party girl is viewed as a `country girl' there. The lower
and lower middle families still restrict such social life
to girls and women. There, the girl has to obey the elders
and only dream of late night parties. Moreover, the glittering
programmes in TV channels and cinema have given the modern
girl ample fuel for day dreaming of late night parties.
In fact, change in life is nothing but natural. New way of life has been objected to from the early times itself. People do want to continue the good old tradition and lead a normal and happy life rather than aping the west blindly and repent later. Good things from everywhere are always welcome.
Even if one's ethics permits or not, as small towns are growing into big towns and big towns becoming cities and cities into mega cities, the late night parties will grow in number. Whether you like it or not girls will also become part of such parties. I will say girls should be given responsible work at home in the night instead of allowing them to join late night parties.
`Na Stri Swatantryam Arhyati', said our great sage Manu. At least they do not deserve the freedom to join late night parties.
Dr
Suram Singh Verma: Attending parties with family members
is o.k. but late night parties with a meaning of boozing
and dancing at an isolated place with unknown people means
danger for a girl. Any girl with a "sense" will never try
to be a part of such a party but sometimes "good girls"
are either pursued by their so-called boy or girl friends
to join such "night parties" and there are full chances
that the situation may turn to be a horrible experience
for the girl.
Indian society is still very conservative with respect to the character and freedom of women in general and girls with such experiences are always highlighted and looked upon by the society. No doubt people have to change their mindset but girls do have to be very careful about themselves and should not invite any such unwanted thing to happen in their lives which will not spoil their social reputation but will also create psychological problems for them to lead respectable lives.
Shrikant
Trivedi: Today we are living in a modern age, where
there is no difference between boys and girls but still
our society is not very open like western countries where
girls often join late night parties. In these days girls
are joining late night parties specially in metros but it
is not a part of our culture and people cannot adopt it
easily and sometimes it induces sex crime, as we have seen
in Mumbai on 31st December 2007. I think it is dangerous
for girls to go in late night parties.
Diversity in our society and illiteracy is another main reason. In the present situation girls should not join late night parties, but we always remember that change is the rule of nature. In our society we also have cultural activities like Garba, Dandiya etc which are held at nights where girls go and freely enjoy the show and the people have no objection because the society has accepted it. May the day come when people will accept the girls joining late night parties as common as in Garba and Dandiya.
Syed
Zia Ul Hasan Naqvi: Answer for this question will be
in affirmative from the stand point of so called progressive
or advance class of people. Modern girls will also say that
they are well educated and they can act aplomb in the most
difficult situations. According to our Indian constitution
also there should not be any discrimination on the basis
of sex with any person. So girls should be treated alike
with boys and they should have liberty to attend late night
parties.
But in the present environment the law and order position is not satisfactory all over the country. Daily we hear about heinous crimes against the fair sex. Under such circumstances it is not wise for girls to attend late night parties after taking risk.
According to criminologists crimes are often committed in favourable conditions- for example offence of embezzlement can only be committed by persons who handle large sums of money and there is no proper checking on them.
Likewise the offence of theft is committed in lonely houses which are locked. Sex offences are common in dwellings where the family members are limited and opportunities for privacy are available. In parties there is mélange of good and bad propensity persons. In parties booze is also served so under the influence of alcoholic drinks people often commit crimes of moral turpitude.
As we know precaution is better than cure hence girls should not provide favourable conditions by attending late night parties.
Madhu
Agrawal: Girls are a naturally created dominated section
of society with comparatively weak body-built and physique
as compared to males. Otherwise also, hunger for sex in
males towards females is not unusual in any part of the
world, rather it is far more vigorous in many African countries
where it is impossible for ladies to go out of homes after
sunset. It is also a bitter reality that police cannot be
everywhere to give protection to every individual. Many-a-time
girls roaming outside hostels in night are sexually assaulted
by their old boy-friends for which such girls are themselves
responsible. It is more appropriate for girls to recognise
practical limitations and should restrict them from visiting
late-night parties unless adequately escorted by parents.
At the same time, it may be noted that girl-students often object to a decent dress-code formulated by certain educational institutions. Indecent dresses especially worn by girls are amongst the main reasons for provoking sexual crimes against women. Even prominent IPS woman police-officer Kiran Bedi has also echoed her views likewise. Major Indian religions also require adequately covering dresses for girls. It is senseless to criticise formulating decent dress-code for girls as snatching freedom. Freedom does not mean vulgarity. If ladies require government and police to ensure their safety from sexual crimes, they themselves are also duty-bound to dress properly!
RJ
Khurana: Ideally yes! In a free country they have every
right to do what they like, late night parties included.
But the unfortunate fact is that our society is not yet
ready for it.
The fast growing urban areas have a good number of maladjusted individuals, a good number of them from broken houses and homeless, jobless, disillusioned, frustrated, discarded and disdained by the society and with criminal background.
They lurk around movie halls, hotels and other places of entertainment for money, fun and crime for livelihood. The Indian police out numbered, overworked, ill trained and unused to finer things of life are not geared to providing necessary security. It is, therefore, very risky for girls to venture out alone or even in a group to late night parties. It has been more than amply demonstrated by the recent incidents of Mumbai and Kolkata.
In Mumbai it was minutes after the two girls escorted by their friends left the New Year Day party that they were chased by a mob and molested. A similar incident took place in Kolkata a couple of days later.
RK
Kutty: Absolutely not. The reason is simple, as we are
not civilized enough to treat the fair sex the way they
should be treated. Even after so much of knowledge, morality
is hitting the lowest ebb and that was what displayed by
a herd of so called male, hooting up on two females on the
dead of night in India's Shanghai Mumbai. When I read that
the inmates of Mumbai jail, where the culprits caught in
the molestation case were lodged, gave a befitting treatment
to them, as most of the inmates hate those who do such unfair
things against the fair sex. According to them, murder is
not that tough a sin as it happens in a fit of rage. Whereas,
deliberately harassing women at public places and molesting
or sexually abusing them are grave sins.
As far as the question of girls joining late night party is concerned, we all know what happens in such night clubs. The case of Jessica Lal is well known. There were innumerable such cases where the influential people who go for such late night party usually involved in unfair methods, harassing girls, treating them as means of their sheer entertainment or sexual abuse.
The basic reason for such abysmal depth of display of immorality in public, without any rhyme or reason by the high and mighty, is that they have the money power which they think can do anything for them. And the law enforcing agencies too fear the money power. After all money is the great leveler. Sin usually abounds where there is no fear of Almighty. That is the reason most of the crimes occurs in high society where power, position and money over-takes their normal self.
Rachana
Panthari: It is said that precaution is better than
cure. Similarly, the question of allowing girls, in joining
late night parties, has controversial answers. Where the
family members are with the girls they can participate in
late night parties but time and tide waits for none as any
untoward incident may occur with the girls while returning,
if there is no proper security. The number of bad people
too have registered rise with increase in population. Everyone
is not fortunate that everywhere a Lord Krishna would come
to their rescue. Though society also consists of the good
people, yet it becomes the duty of the girls not to give
occasions for bad incidents to take place. If the girls
have proper security to face gunda elements then they may
join late night parties otherwise better stay at home. TV
channels are full with all sorts of good and bad to very
bad programmes which are influencing people to act wrongly.
In conclusion we can say that the police personnel cannot reach every place without being informed, thus it becomes the duty of citizens to help one another and to be alert with foresightedness. In fact our society is witnessing sudden changes and today everyone wants to enjoy high society and loves glamour.
Females should join late night parties as we are emphasising on their equality with the menfolk.
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